If
your brother thinks he knows best and jumps to conclusions before he's
even met your new love, what to do? Here's how to tackle your brother's
over-protective approach.
Steps
1
Stop worrying about your brother's approval. If you allow him to have this power over you, he's going to keep up disapproving because he gets away with it. Once he sees that you don't much care, it'll be harder for him to see the point in being so difficult.
2
Interpret your brother's attitude as one of love and care for you but don't let this stifle you. He might just need to learn a few things about sibling love and support and now is the time to implement the lesson.
3
Introduce your new love to your brother. Be confident. Use a relaxed occasion to make the introduction so that there is time for the two of them to get to know one another without you hovering around constantly.
Before the introduction tell both of them how important they are to you and why it matters that they respect your love for each person. This will alert them to the fact that you mean business and it lets your brother know that you won't tolerate his usual nasty response.
4
Make your new love the priority in your life. If your brother is still not able to come to terms with your new mate, and this person turns out to be the love of your life, then you'll need to make a choice to prioritize your love and let your brother come around to acceptance in his own time.
Steps
1
Stop worrying about your brother's approval. If you allow him to have this power over you, he's going to keep up disapproving because he gets away with it. Once he sees that you don't much care, it'll be harder for him to see the point in being so difficult.
2
Interpret your brother's attitude as one of love and care for you but don't let this stifle you. He might just need to learn a few things about sibling love and support and now is the time to implement the lesson.
3
Introduce your new love to your brother. Be confident. Use a relaxed occasion to make the introduction so that there is time for the two of them to get to know one another without you hovering around constantly.
Before the introduction tell both of them how important they are to you and why it matters that they respect your love for each person. This will alert them to the fact that you mean business and it lets your brother know that you won't tolerate his usual nasty response.
4
Make your new love the priority in your life. If your brother is still not able to come to terms with your new mate, and this person turns out to be the love of your life, then you'll need to make a choice to prioritize your love and let your brother come around to acceptance in his own time.
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