It is essential for a twin to develop their own independence. Forming a dependence on your twin when young will likely lead to the development of similar personalities and a strong reluctance to part when adult. Here are some tips for creating some distance and establishing independence.
Steps
1
Remember you and your twin are two different people. Different interests, tastes, style etc just as everyone one else is different.
2
If you're in the same classes together at school, but want to be in different classes, ask to be moved to separate classes. This may not be possible, but it is vital that you form some kind of rift between you and your twin. Spending all of your time at home and at school with your twin may eventually lead you to be dependent on them. Having different classes will allow each of your personalities to develop separately from one another and will also give you the opportunity to make other friends.
3
You don't have to wear the same clothes as your twin. Choosing your own clothes shows independence and expresses a distinct personality. The same is true for hairstyles. Be yourself!
4
Although you may be inclined to have similar interests, try to get involved in clubs and sports that your twin does not take part in. Again this helps to develop your personality separately to your twin and shows a degree of independence
5
Be firm when dealing with others. "Why are you and your sister dressed differently today?" or "Which one better than the other?" is something either one of you may hear. Remember be firm and tell them."Can you stop comparing us?," or "I am my own person just as everyone else is their own person me and my brother/sister are not the same,"
Tips
Remember be yourself! Be your own person!
Warnings
It is not necessary to ignore or disregard your twin. Such tactics will likely alienate you from them.
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